When you feel like you’re not enough it can affect your mental health. This feeling can come from outside pressure or unrealistic expectations. You’re not alone in feeling this way however it’s not a place where it’s healthy for you to remain.
Sometimes you just need someone to talk to, that’s why we’re here. There’s no pressure and you can explore at your own pace.
Thoughts of inadequacy can be crippling. These feelings can cause negative self-talk like self-doubt or worthlessness. Many times these feelings are unwarranted or unjustified and are false.
From time to time all of us experience the feeling’s of not measuring up or that you're not enough, especially when there's a ton of pressure coming from all directions. This can come from unrealistic standards, like having to look a certain way or achieving specific things. Social media can make it seem like everyone has it all figured out, but it's important to remember that those are just snapshots, not the full picture.
Comparing yourself to others is another big reason for these feelings. Everyone is on their own journey, and it's easy to forget that when it seems like others have everything together. It's good to recognise that feelings of self worth and feeling like you’re not enough often comes from external pressures and it’s not an accurate reflection of your true worth.
Here are five practical steps you can take to start feeling better:
Be kind to yourself Treat yourself like a good friend. When those negative thoughts creep in, remind yourself of your strengths and achievements. Remember, it's okay not to be perfect, and everyone makes mistakes.
Set yourself some goals Break down big tasks into smaller, more manageable steps. Celebrate your victories along the way, no matter how small. It's about progress, not perfection.
Build a positive support system Surround yourself with friends and family who appreciate you for who you are. Share your thoughts and feelings with someone you trust – talking it out can be a huge relief, and you're not alone in this.
Do things that will bring you joy Take time for things you genuinely enjoy, whether it's a hobby, sport, or something creative. Having fun is important for your well-being, and it's a great way to discover more about yourself.
Consider getting professional help: If the feelings of not measuring up persist or become overwhelming, don't hesitate to reach out to a counsellor or therapist. They're trained to help you work through these emotions and provide valuable insights.
Remember, it's okay not to have everything figured out, and you're definitely not alone in feeling this way. Taking small steps and being kind to yourself can make a big difference.
Have you ever tried talking to God about feeling inadequate?
You can talk to God at any time and anywhere. You can start talking to God like he's there right beside you. Talking out loud can really help*. You can speak this out loud to God now…
“Dear God, I’m having feelings of inadequacy and I’m feeling clouded with guilt and shame. I need your help. I don’t want to feel this way anymore. Help me to be able to understand what’s behind these feelings and what I should do. Can you please show me that you are real and open my heart and my mind so that I can know you, Amen”
Amen means ‘let it be done’.
* If you can’t talk out loud that’s ok, you can talk to God silently (he knows your thoughts)